You need to get out of the pressure of doing it all, pleasing people and promoting yourself. You have to just live life on what’s working for you and your family.
As a #Christian, I had the pressure to please my leaders. To get their approval and recognition. I was building their dreams and not pursuing mine. I was under so much stress and weight that I was burnt out and my service to Him were out of “I have to” and not “I want to” because I was intimate with Jesus, embracing who I am in Him and flourishing in the gifting He placed in my life.
As a #wife and #mom, I had the pressure to project a perfect family. I tried hard to look spotless like those I see on social media. I would post things that would look like we’re happy. But I failed to take care of what’s real, what’s really going on in my marriage and the life of our kids which happens offline all the time.
As a #homeschooling mom, I had the pressure to try different types of curriculum and activities because it looks fun and exciting. When I should just focus on what actually works for our family. How my kids are effectively learning. What ticks out our homeschool goals and whys.
As a #businessowner, I had the pressure to grow big overnight. When I need to consider the welfare of my team, our recipients and focus on the mission God gave.
As a #freelancer, I had the pressure to earn millions right away. It compromised work quality and my time for family. When I should just take clients according to what I can give my best output.
There are a lot of pressures in this world. And if we take on something that just looks good, so we can also look good, it will just leave us stressed and away from the dreams and passions of our hearts that we should be focusing on.
I decided to just do the things I am able, what actually works and enjoy every moment that comes with it.
Now, I am:
- enjoying my relationship with God
- able to manage the home that I am on top of the laundry, cleaning, grocery, cooking, etc.
- managing the kids’ homeschooling (we’re finally progressing!)
- growing FVA according to its convictions with the right people running the mission
- empowering freelancers and brand and those God placed on our path
If you are like me a year ago who was OVERWHELMED with everything on her plate, I hope these steps can help.
- List the 3-5 priorities for your family and focus on those only.
- Let go of other things.
Check on what effectively WORKS for your family and do that.
Delegate tasks (we have a friend come weekly to help us with cleaning, folding laundry and other heavier chores, so Jay and I can just focus on the daily stuff… we also have a private tutor helping me with homeschooling… we also have people working for us with FVA, it may take out a big chunk from our profit but at least we’re able to help people while being rested).
Focus on the “offline stuff”
- How’s your marriage?
- Are your kids grow in their relationship with Jesus?
- What’s going on with your business?
- Are you still happy?
- Do you feel fulfilled in the things you’re doing?
- Are you growing?
- Where are you in your dreams?
You don’t have to do everything everyone’s doing. Just focus on what works for you, the people you love and the dreams God placed within.