Soap Opera’s Infatuations
Sorry to break it to you Ladies, but married life is not the typical soap opera.
- It’s NOT like Dào Míng Sì’s ultimate love for Shān Cài in Meteor Garden, who always rescues her from all the tragedies in life.
- It’s NOT like the Kim Shin’s immortal love for Ji Eun-tak in Goblin (Guardian: The Lonely and Great God) whose love surpasses a lifetime.
- It’s NOT Heo Joon-jae and Shim Cheong’s unrequited hot love that’s bounded to be together through time in Legend of the Blue Sea.
- It’s NOT Joon Hyung and Kim Bok Joo’s sweet and exciting love in Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok-joo.
- NOT even the types you see in Descendants of the Sun, What’s Wrong With Secretary Kim?, I’m Not a Robot and the like…
The Koreanobelas* can be summed up to themes of undying love, thrilling, exciting, and dramatic. It’s so emotional outbursts in these soap operas are so intense that when one is not careful, the heart can be deceived and would start expecting these feelings in the real world.
Oh Be Careful Little Heart
I can still remember my first Koreanobela experience with My Love from the Stars. I got drawn to it because of Cheon Song-yi’s fashion style. I loved all her lipstick color choices and the purses! I can see myself in her. And then I got hook to the story. The characters were very good and the whole production was realistic. It consumed me without realizing it. It engrossed my soul that I cried a lot when the alien Do Min-joon needed to go back to the stars. I got so afflicted that I cried often the whole week after that… and even asked my husband to just embrace me tightly each time I was so emotional.
It might be funny but this is what happens when we allow soulish attachments in our lives. It jumps into the real world and affects our reality.
When I shared this experience with some single ladies. A few came to me and confessed to be prayed for. Some young girls disclosed that they became too attached that they started stalking the lead actors in social media, they then became a part of their imaginations and worse, these ladies expect that love is like what they see in Koreanobelas.
The Perfection in Imperfections
Then what is real love then?
Married life is beautiful. But it is honestly very far from the intense drama in soap operas.
- Real love is SIMPLE. It rejoices in the simple things in the middle of adulting and parenting. It is not fighting superpowers and encompassing fates and lifetimes. It is found in the simple text that says, “Ingat”. It is the simple foot massage. The act of giving her flowers you picked from the neighbor’s backyard. Cooking him his favorite food and laughing at his corny jokes. It is thinking of the other person’s welfare. In the simplest detail of our daily lives.
- Real love is REAL. It’s doesn’t often involve intense life’s turn of events like kidnapping, fights, meteor showers, and fighting bad guys… it doesn’t always present panoramic views and dramatic musical scoring. But a normal day and night, and a conventional life with real ups and downs — with two people deciding to stick together no matter what because they couldn’t see going through life with anyone else but their spouse.
- Real love is MATURE. It doesn’t always find itself in trouble and one having to chase the other to the ends of the world just to be able to express the depths of love. Real love thinks. It understands. It presents the best interest for other other person. It is selfless. It is calm and seasoned with real life challenges deepening the love. It encompasses the imperfections of life making love even more noble and worth it.
With today’s age combined with our deceiving hearts, it is very easy to be swayed to different realisms of what real love is. This is why as women of God, we need to be ground in His truth. Don’t listen to the worldly voices. Be founded in His word!
To the SINGLE LADIES: I pray that you value your purity. Not just physically but emotionally. Choose what you will feed your mind and heart.
To the MARRIED WOMEN: I plea that we will be careful with our emotional pleasures. May we find our desires for our husbands alone and not other men who we’re not in covenant with.
May Jesus be pleased when He looks at our thoughts, hearts and motives…